by Joanie Butman
New Year’s resolutions aren’t my thing – probably due to a long history of failures. I’m not alone. Statistics indicate that most New Year’s resolutions dissolve by mid-February with a failure rate exceeding 80%. An alternate approach made popular by Ali Edwards* in 2006 is the One Little Word Project. On her website she suggests choosing “a word to focus on, to live with, to investigate, to write about, to craft with, and to reflect upon as you go about your daily life.”
For example, Melinda Gates posted on LinkedIn her intent to carry her 2019 word forward—grace. She explains, "What I love about grace, at least the way I define it, is that by pulling us up out of ourselves and onto a higher plane, it makes us more open to the world, to new experiences, to each other. It creates connections and encourages empathy."
Though not inspired by Ali Edwards, a friend of mine adopted the practice and shared his thoughts:
This year, it's "purple.” I found an old Christmas note from a dear friend and mentor who had a profound influence on my life. She wrote: ‘I've been trying to think of the word that best describes you for me and it has finally come...you are an ENHANCER. When I took art many years ago, I was told that purple makes brighter any color it is used around...that's what you do for people.’ God intended for me to find that note from Annie, written during an unhappy time in my life some 30 years ago. Purple reminds me of my purpose on the planet. To selflessly serve. And in the process, hopefully make things better for those around me.”
His words beautifully illustrate the immense power affirmation and encouragement have when shared with others. Purple individuals are the unsung heroes, enhancing those around them quietly without fanfare.
As I reflected on my friend’s choice, the Bible character Barnabas came to mind. Though his name was actually Joseph, he became known as Barnabas which means “Son of Encouragement.” Here is an excellent example of an enhancer. Though not a major ‘player’ in the New Testament, he is known as “one of the most quietly influential people in the early days of Christianity.” What a beautiful testimony to the way He chose to live His life.
I’ve had my share of nicknames and, believe me, none have been of the ilk that I would want recorded for eternity. Barnabas left a legacy of encouragement reflected in his name. It made me wonder what kind of legacy I will leave. What nickname would I be assigned and please, Lord, don’t let my brothers have any input.
Using Barnabas and my friend as examples, purple will be my word as well for 2020. I can’t think of a better intention than to be more encouraging and affirming. It might be one little word, but it holds enormous power. There is always someone in need of encouragement; you never have to look far.
Lastly, as I mentioned earlier, I have a lifetime of failed New Year’s resolutions with the exception of one. What was the secret of my sole/soul success? I invited God into it, or more accurately, I gave it to Him and got out of the way. So simple. Hard to believe it took me 59 years to figure it out.
With that in mind, I chose a Bible verse to accompany my word - my way of welcoming Divine assistance. In fact, in our divisive society I wish I could post it on billboards across the country. "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (Ephesians 4:29).
Whatever your intention is this year, I encourage you to choose to invite God into it. His success rate is quite impressive.
*https://aliedwards.com/one-little-word-2020